tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post4367523167364323301..comments2023-10-19T05:45:24.772-04:00Comments on Brand New Day: Topic: Birth Family VisitUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-77386182222347126962009-10-29T07:42:12.038-04:002009-10-29T07:42:12.038-04:00hi i stumbled across your blog. we are picking up ...hi i stumbled across your blog. we are picking up a 5 month old from ET in a few months. i'm a social worker and i have travelled on birth country tours with kids and their families and have helped facilitate many birth family reunions on these tours (an option in some countries). you might want to check out http://www.adoptivefamilytravel.com<br />something to think about for the future...atCloverland Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01118709149232877201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-14210302191449344512009-10-28T20:00:25.978-04:002009-10-28T20:00:25.978-04:00Lori
I know you have already made up your mind but...Lori<br />I know you have already made up your mind but I just wanted to share my thoughts. <br />I am a social worker for the county. I have removed a fair amount of kids because of abuse and neglect. I removed one child at a few days old but had to do the whole court thing and visits etc. Eventually we ended up doing an open adoption with her foster family which basically means that the Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10240549050827136277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-89707501951086001972009-10-26T23:38:20.031-04:002009-10-26T23:38:20.031-04:00Ruth & Aster were only with thier family for t...Ruth & Aster were only with thier family for the firts 6 weeks of thier lives, so it's different. But I will take them back. I hope to make our first trip when they are 5 or 7. Who knows, maybe when they are 5 or 7 I will feel differently, but right now, if it were not financailly impossible, I would take them back as often as I could.QBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12958202392390845488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-4572063951872646082009-10-21T13:37:16.899-04:002009-10-21T13:37:16.899-04:00Lori,
I came back to read the other responses to ...Lori,<br /><br />I came back to read the other responses to gain their perspectives too. I am so glad that you have opened this up so that we can see what you are thinking and what others are thinking. Some great insight was shared, and as usual...I learned a thing or two.<br /><br />TheresaEastiopianshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13080708384309438314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-19826523319831221222009-10-21T13:19:20.029-04:002009-10-21T13:19:20.029-04:00Your post was very thought provoking. Our daughter...Your post was very thought provoking. Our daughter was abandoned at 2 weeks old so we don't have a family to visit BUT I want to take our entire family to Ethiopia when Desta can remember (she's only 6 months old now so...)<br /><br />Having grown up the first 19 years of my life in Africa, I can say with all certainty that a trip "home" is very important. <br /><br />For me, Melodie Monberghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18004707147709396886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-23746700372253676002009-10-20T18:36:34.337-04:002009-10-20T18:36:34.337-04:00Wow, Julie and Tiff, thanks for taking the time to...Wow, Julie and Tiff, thanks for taking the time to respond. <br /><br />It's amazing how much Petros knows and remembers in comparison to Tessa. Perhaps this is a journey we may make together? Who knows. From New England to Arbegona, two families with toddlers - small world. I like how you think.<br /><br />Julia - your son sounds brilliant and aware. I love his spirit and attitude!Nicholashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10407367714914960156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-13634808162571740972009-10-20T18:27:11.556-04:002009-10-20T18:27:11.556-04:00Our situation is very similar, yet different. Whe...Our situation is very similar, yet different. When Petros first came home, we didn't allow him to see pictures or video for the first month or two. (We wanted to be sure that his English was good enough to understand us when we told him he was here forever.) When we showed him the photo of his birth family, he lit up and exclaimed his birth father's name. (Which is good because it'Mrs. Engelhardthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07961856196996100186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-16078312595152953122009-10-20T16:29:45.797-04:002009-10-20T16:29:45.797-04:00My boy is 9 (8 at the time of relinquishment) so w...My boy is 9 (8 at the time of relinquishment) so we have a different situation. He talks about going to visit and even has dedicated part of his allowance to saving for the trip - I explained that it's expensive to travel there and he came up with this plan on his own, bless him. Without spilling too much of his story in public, he has extended family that he lived with for many years and an Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18141504648674230696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-6923360337830383862009-10-20T14:35:28.718-04:002009-10-20T14:35:28.718-04:00Addison's birth mom said also, that when she w...Addison's birth mom said also, that when she was older, she'd like to meet her. I think we were both ok with that. Mark and I have both agreed that when all the kids are older, we want to take them all to show them where she is really from. But I think our plan is to wait till she is older....like late teens even. First of all, just cuz the plane ride is NO fun and the older they are Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16303819759782859403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-44945762107784986602009-10-20T14:32:23.142-04:002009-10-20T14:32:23.142-04:00Wow. Eastopians, what a great response. That is ac...Wow. Eastopians, what a great response. That is actually something I need to process. I can't believe that I haven't yet. I just keep thinking that she doesn't remember so it's ok. But once there it could be VERY confusing and disturbing to her. Plus, one day she'll know we brought her back. Will she be upset to learn that? She could be very upset indeed. Thanks so much. More Nicholashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10407367714914960156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7286851925598309070.post-82736088066487416112009-10-20T14:17:41.228-04:002009-10-20T14:17:41.228-04:00I am not speaking from experience. We are going t...I am not speaking from experience. We are going to pick up our toddler in Ethiopia next month. We may not have the opportunity to do a birth family visit while there. But, the agency has asked the birth mother many questions for me at their meeting after the court hearing. If her birth mother DOES want us to visit, then we plan on doing it when B is a teenager. Because I think it would be Eastiopianshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13080708384309438314noreply@blogger.com